This relationship has already dispersed completely according to the "Six Clashes" pattern in the hexagram. The farewell message you plan to send will not only fail to evoke any warmth from the other party, but is likely to be interpreted as harassment, leading to coldness or even arguments and gossip. The hexagram indicates that their mind is firmly made up, and your actions will most likely come to nothing.
The Other Party's Mind Is Made Up, and the Basis for Reconciliation or Being Moved No Longer Exists
Background Analysis
The Primary Hexagram is Hexagram 25 — Wu Wang (Innocence), and the Resulting Hexagram is Hexagram 13 — Tong Ren (Fellowship). However, the Primary Hexagram itself is a Six Clashes hexagram (the Self Line Wu Fire clashes with the Other Line Zi Water). In love divination, the Six Clashes signify separation, conflict, and a rapid end, meaning the foundation of your relationship is broken and difficult to repair. Although the Resulting Hexagram Tong Ren carries the meaning of "fellowship and harmony," it points more toward a broad, distant friendliness rather than a rekindling of old romance. The memories and confession you plan to send correspond to the Changing Line Wealth Chen Earth in the hexagram. It moves and transforms into Parents Hai Water; Par. governs documents and messages, which is indeed the content you wish to convey. However, this Changing Line is drained by the monthly command Shen Metal and controlled by the daily command Yin Wood. It is in a state of decline, indicating that the power of this message is very weak and unlikely to produce the desired effect.
Your Message Will Be Viewed as an Intrusion Rather Than a Touching Gesture
Yong Shen (Focus) Analysis
As a male inquiring about an ex-partner, your Yong Shen (Focus) is the Wealth line. In the hexagram, Wea. appears twice: the 6th line Xu Earth and the Changing Line Chen Earth. The Changing Line Chen Earth represents your planned action, but it transforms into Parents Hai Water, and this Hai Water forms a "hidden bond" with the Self Line (representing you) Wu Fire. This indicates a secret expectation for reconciliation within your heart. However, the Other Line representing the other party is Parents Zi Water, accompanied by the Azure Dragon. Zi Water is Void in the Jia-Yin cycle, yet it is generated by the monthly command Shen Metal, making it a "Prosperous Void"—the other party hasn't forgotten you, but subjectively they have already "voided" their attachment to this relationship; their mind is made up. More crucially, the Self Line Wu Fire and the Other Line Zi Water directly clash, representing fundamental opposition and rejection. Your Changing Line Chen Earth seeks to generate and bond with the Other Line Zi Water (Earth controls Water as Wealth; you want to "pursue" her), but because Zi Water is Void, it cannot receive this generation. Your efforts will be like pouring into a bottomless pit. At the same time, the Changing Line Chen Earth and the Other Line Zi Water form a "Zi-Chen Half Water Combination," which appears affectionate, but because Zi Water is Void, this combination is illusory and merely your own wishful thinking. The Other Line is accompanied by the Azure Dragon, suggesting the other party may currently be in a new relationship that makes her feel good, and your appearance will be viewed as an intrusion.
Taking Action May Provoke Arguments Rather Than a Peaceful Farewell
Detailed Deduction
In the hexagram, Siblings Yin Wood is accompanied by the Vermilion Bird; it is prosperous and secretly active (Yin Wood is supported by the daily command Yin Wood). The Siblings line controls Wealth, representing competitors and obstacles, while the Vermilion Bird governs arguments and gossip. This strongly suggests that once your message is sent, it is very likely to trigger disputes or unpleasant conversations. Not only will the other party fail to be moved, but they may also respond with sharp words, and even her new partner might get involved. Wealth Chen Earth moves and transforms into Parents Hai Water; Par. also governs emotions and tears, which implies that you will be the one falling into deeper emotional turmoil because of this action, rather than moving the other party. A Six Clashes hexagram governs rapid developments, meaning the other party might quickly give you a decisive and absolute response.
Timing Deduction and Action Advice
Timing Deduction
The Other Line Zi Water is Void. The day it exits the Void is a Zi day (calculated from the casting day of Jia-Yin, around August 16, 2026). At that time, if there is any contact between you, the other party might give a clear, conclusive response. However, it is more likely that, because Zi Water is bound by the monthly command Shen Metal, the other party will be busy with other matters (perhaps a new relationship or work) and will choose to ignore you, letting the matter fizzle out.
Action Advice
- Abandon the idea of sending this message; this is the most rational choice right now. The hexagram clearly shows that the outcome of taking action will be the exact opposite of your expectations.
- Keep these unresolved emotions and memories to yourself. Digest them through writing, exercise, or talking with friends, and avoid externalizing your inner attachments into a disturbance for someone else.
- Accept the outcome of the "Six Clashes" and acknowledge that the relationship is completely over. Redirect your energy toward self-reconstruction. The Self Line Wu Fire is clashed, but it is accompanied by Teng She, indicating that you are entangled in the past. You need to actively break free so that you can usher in the broader interpersonal future foreshadowed by the Resulting Hexagram "Tong Ren."
